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Physical & Psychological Effects of Divorce

It is common knowledge that no happy marriage ends in divorce. Common emotional and psychological effects of divorce include:

  • Guilt
  • Anxiety/Stress
  • Depression
  • Insomnia
  • Substance abuse
  • Identity Crisis

Whilst divorce affects most everyone in the same way a psychological study found that for most these symptoms are temporary. Although it is proven that people with a prior history of depression often have depressive episodes long after the divorce has been finalized.

Psychologists theorize that women often have access to networks and rely on support more readily than men. This is invaluable to overcoming the emotional effects of divorce.  Men do not cope well with the emotional aspects and this speaks to a more intense stressful experience.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

Divorce-Effects

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Health problems are worsened due to a lower standard of living and the economic hardship divorced people experience. Very often they will not have the same amount of people in their support structures which causes more intense stress and in turn the immune system is weakened;

  • Divorced men and women get more colds and flu
  • Divorced men have higher incidences of cancer and heart disease
  • Divorced men and women will often experience extreme changes in their weight
  • The mortality rate for divorced men is nearly 250 percent greater than with married men
  • Divorced men suffer more heart attacks and strokes than non-divorced men
  • Higher levels of inflammation in women
  • Worsened financial situation

It is true that most people bounce back. A psychological study of divorce related depression found that for most people these symptoms are temporary.

Women also tend to have a higher frequency of identity issues during and after a divorce. Whilst overcoming this can turn out to be an enormously positive thing, a new self-identity can lead to becoming an emotionally and physically healthier person.

Women also tend to hold on to the stress of divorce longer than men. Scientists trace this to a sudden decrease in standard of living which can go on long after the divorce is final.

Positive Health Effects of Divorce

There can also be some excellent health effects resulting from a divorce.

Relief from a stressful home environment is one of the biggest effects.

Another positive effect is the expansion of self-identity and performing new roles. Some people will advance their careers while some may resort to hobbies and new social circles which in our experience has a very positive effect.

If mediation and counselling have not worked and it’s time to cut ties. Dealing with this experience can be a positive thing for the whole family. We may struggle with change but learning to embrace the sometimes-positive change that divorce can bring has long lasting positive effects. Assistance is often need in recognising and embracing the growth that potentially comes from this change.

Most people find that it can turn out for the better, whereas others agree that it is one of the most difficult things they have dealt with. In most cases, divorce is something that can change your life and your family’s life for the better. Sometimes, it can be better to separate than to allow things to go on that are broken beyond repair.

Families around the world experience a variety of positive effects after a divorce:

Creating a Healthier Household

An unhealthy relationship will put a strain on your entire family, not just the couple that is dealing with the divorce.  Even though you may not like the of the idea of being alone, it is better to deal with a temporary period of sadness and grief especially if you could have had a lifetime of bitter resentment

Being a Positive Influence on the Children

Children are much smarter than people give them credit for, particularly when it comes to feeling the effects of the emotions surrounding them. They will easily be able to tell when you and your spouse are unhappy.

As a parent, it is your responsibility to be a positive model for your kids, so opting for a divorce can be the best way to show them they need to strive for what they deserve in life: happiness.

Improving Your Physical Health

Strenuous relationships are huge causes of deteriorating health. A bad relationship can be incredibly stressful and dealing with chronic stress can bring on symptoms of premature aging, cancer, heart disease, and death. Therefore, it is important that you keep your mind healthy; then you can make sure your body is healthy as well.

Becoming More Self-Aware

If you are would like to learn more about yourself, there is not a single better event to go through in your life than divorce. You will finally have the opportunity to understand what it is that you need to be happy. Ex-spouses seem to have the ability to focus on their needs and the needs of their children, instead of trying to keep a broken relationship together.

Divorce will also equip you with phenomenal coping skills, which will prepare you for many different situations in the future. You could go onto having more of an understanding of what you need in life, how much pain you can endure, and how to recognise a toxic relationship.

Feeling Confident Once Again

No one likes to go through a period in their life when they feel terrible about themselves. Being married to someone you resent is emotionally taxing, incredibly complicated, and messy. Once you get rid of a negative influence in your life, you will see all of the great things about yourself, which will help you feel confident once again.

You will also feel more confident in your strength, as you will have the ability to end this terrible relationship. You will see that it is finally time for you to feel empowered, instead of used and useless.

Divorce is difficult, but in many cases, it is necessary. There is absolutely no reason to settle when you can be free and happy. The end of your marriage is not the end of your existence. You can decide to improve your life in many ways.

Spousal Therapy

Sometimes a wellness and recovery process needs to be considered.

If are entering into counselling because one or the other of you already want a divorce or separation, then it is probably too late for marriage counselling to be effective in preventing the separation. Some couples wait much too long to try therapy and the initial problems or complaints become too numerous to deal with and the damage is more often than not irreparable.

One should not delay in seeking out a couple of therapy services. You and your partner may be shocked and unwilling that you need to take this step, but in the long term you will both be thankful that you acted instead of waiting and allowing matters to worsen. Couple therapy can also assist in the divorce process ensuring that conflicting matters are dealt with further along the line. This is also important for the parenting relationship that needs to be maintained for the well-being of children that are borne out of the marriage.

There are two sides to what is called the “divorce work”, one side is designed to ensure equity and the legal separation of the partners. The other side of “divorce work” speaks to the emotional aftermath that almost always follows a separation. This is a coping method in which the individual will sort through the sense of loss, the emotions, and the situations caused by the divorce. The emotional impact of any separation or divorce should never be underestimated.

All parties in this process needs to be assisted within the context of their lives while they work through this struggle. Some of the issues that often need addressing include depression, anxiety, anger, spiritual formation, communication, behavioural, and marital problems.

Sometimes therapy is required from an experienced and specifically trained therapist for children with developmental disorders, especially for those who have had traumatic experiences, and those with other difficulties. These therapy sessions may need to include pre-divorce or post-divorce sessions as well.

One of the most important things to consider about couple therapy is that it’s not a guaranteed fix. This is something which many people do not realise going in, and it can lead to frustration and disappointment later on in the therapy process. The fact is that not every couple that goes to therapy together can salvage their relationship. There are cases where couple therapy leads to the spouses realising that they’re better off living apart from one another. In certain cases, it is found that the best way to save a relationship is to end it.

A therapist will work with you and your partner and be a guide; however, you and your partner are ultimately in charge of whether your relationship will succeed or fail. Therapy has proven that it only works if the two parties put in the time and take the necessary steps towards fostering a successful relationship. This is not a one-shoe fits all exercise and should always be done with consideration to both parties

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Mental health is often an overlooked aspect in divorce with so much going on, it is important to look after ourselves as well.

Do not hesitate or feel ashamed to talk to someone about any issues you may be suffering from.

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a grave problem for people of all genders, races, and cultures. People who go through domestic violence within the home are open to being badly injured or could lose their lives. There are many kinds of abuse, and they are all negative and for some this may leave permanent mental and emotional damage to the family. It is imperative that when there is spousal abuse in the family that an immediate action plan is put into place and assistance is provided for the victims of this abuse.

However, one may require help in recognising the signs and how they go about seeking help.

Unstable Emotional Household

An unstable household during a divorce is one in which circumstances and moods are constantly changing. Family members, particularly children, do not know what to expect from day to day or moment to moment. The result is often fear and feelings of insecurity. The lack of stability in the home, rather than the actual divorce itself, creates the most problems for adults and children.

Adults who are going through a divorce will suffer through a range of emotions from sadness to betrayal. Even when a divorce is amicable, the husband and wife are letting go of the dream they shared when they married. Sadness is a natural reaction to this and at this stage they will also both be trying to secure their separate financial futures. A woman may feel betrayed when a husband tries to claim a monetary interest in her business or seek alimony from her. A man might become angered by his wife’s monetary demands for spousal support and child care. As they work through these feelings, emotional volatility creates an atmosphere of uncertainly in the home.

Children

A child going whose parents are going through a divorce often encounters feelings of fear, sadness, guilty, rejection and anger. The family, as the child knows it, is changing in every aspect. The child might experience loneliness when a parent leaves, as well as anger toward the parent for leaving. Ultimately children fear the unknown and will often prefer an unsafe home life to the collapse of their family. While abuse might have been a part of the child’s life it’s the uncertainty of the future that creates emotional instability.

Routine

Maintaining a stable home environment during and after a divorce is one of the most important things a parents can do to promote emotional stability for children, according to Diane M. Berry, author of “Child-Friendly Divorce: A Divorced Therapist’s Guide to Helping Your Children Thrive!” Children need to know who is preparing their meals, who will fetch them from school. Visitation is another unsettling aspect where adults and children need to know when they can expect to see each other after a separation.

Income

A change in income can almost certainly create emotional instability in the home where living standards cannot be maintained. Often feelings of inadequacy will come to the surface as they no longer have the extra-curricular activities which they had. Poverty creates emotional instability when the members of a household become uncertain of where they will live and how they will eat.

Closing Thoughts

In conclusion, divorce can be a difficult and trying time for yourself and ex partner as well as impact those around. It is important that we look after our mental health and well-being

If you are ready and prepared to seperate from your partner and change your life please visit our divorce page.

Thank you for reading and until next time!

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6 Questions to find out if divorce is the right solution for you

Divorce can often be a stressful and confusing time for couples; there are no easy solutions or answers to decide whether you are ready for a divorce. The emotional and financial toll a divorce can have an a person is often understated, SKV Attorneys is here to help guide you decide whether divorce is the right choice for your situation. If you are looking for more helpful advice, take a quick gander at our articles page.

Should I stay or should I go is a question people in marriages often ask themselves. Many experts assume that once a married person says they want a divorce that they are ready for it, however, that is not always the case. When the divorce process happens couples are not prepared for the reality of the situation.

Divorce is something that should not be rushed or done hastily, emotions are quite often involved in the decision and reactionary behavior can affect those around you and your mental well-being. Before deciding on a divorce you need to ensure you are facing the situation with a clear head and without emotional bias. We will go through the following 6 questions to help you decide if divorce is the right path for your marriage.

“I don’t see divorce as a failure. I see it as the end of a story. In a story, everything has an end and a beginning.”
Olga Kurylenko

1. Are You Willing To Accept Responsibility?

As human beings we are always wanting to be in control of every situation, however, in reality this is an impossible task and the same goes for marriage. Relationships deteriorate over time and behaviors themselves change, we can’t change our spouses behavior but you can change your behaviors. Are you willing to change yourself to save your marriage?

Marriage is a partnership and two-way street; it is not only one side that can be blamed for the breakdown of a relationship, both sides need to be able to accept responsibility for the actions, whether it is neglect or something more serious. According to leading divorce experts one partner will usually blame the other for the breakdown of the marriage but  it is not as simple as that. The actions of one partner can affect the actions of the other, therefore it is imperative that if you want to make your divorce as smooth as possible you need to accept your shortcomings as a partner and not just your spouses.

2. Do You Still Have Feelings For Your Spouse?

Many divorces are emotionally driven affairs and one or both spouses will often have still feelings for one another but due to intimacy, power or other struggles there can be a disconnect between spouses who have hastily decided the divorce is the best route. If this sounds like you we recommend you take some time to yourselves and work on your marriage and the issues you are facing otherwise you might feel a sense of regret and find yourself worse off than before the divorce.

One story from a client, who we will call Elizabeth, Elizabeth was struggling through her relationship with her husband, Elizabeth would try save most of their money to pay off their debt but her husband could not control his spending and pulled them further into debt, seeing divorce as the only way out of the situation. This put a great strain on an otherwise perfect relationship and because of Elizabeth’s feelings towards her husband she could not do it. Instead Elizabeth sought out guidance from her therapists and close friends to help set boundaries and try overcome the situation with her husband.

On the other side of the coin, people fall out of love sometimes, especially after being together for many years. Unfortunately, this usually only affects one spouse who is still in love. If this sounds like you, divorce may be the right solution, however, it is not unheard of for people to fall back in love but do not let someone hang this thought over your head.

3. Is Your Decision Without Bias & Emotional Reaction?

When making a huge life changing decision such as divorce it is essential to go into the process with a clear head, non-bias and unemotional state to allow you to make a decision you can stick with over the process. Often times an emotionally charged decision does not last and is not productive to resolve any issues you and your spouse are experiencing.

In order to be ready for a divorce you need to have a minimal emotional attachment to your spouse otherwise the divorce process won’t be smooth it will instead be stressful and full of a lot of pain because you are still holding onto your feelings of anger and resentment.

One of our customers was in the divorce process who always complained how much she hated her soon to be ex-husband, on a weekly basis she would have strong feelings of hate toward him. The feelings she was experiencing was a reflection of her passion and feelings toward him, she soon realized this and started detaching herself from her emotions and proceeded smoothly through the rest of her divorce process. To be ready for a divorce you need to lower your emotional attachment to the person you are separating from, which is easier said than done.

4. Are You Ready For The Consequences a Divorce Brings With It?

Divorce is a major change in anyone’s life, there is no easy way out and it comes with much stress, financial and emotional turmoil. It is often the ending of “the happy family” dream. It is imperative that you have a good support system in place to help you through this time.

Divorce hurts, and it hurts even more to know it has caused others pain and suffering. Children, family members and friends can all be greatly impacted by a divorce. You are not only making a decision for yourself but for everyone who is involved in your lives. The following are some consequences you may face:

  • Financial and lifestyle changes that may make you worse off than previously.
  • Your mental health and wellbeing may suffer.
  • You need to be able to accept your children’s feelings of anger and depression during the early stages of divorce.
  • Know that if you have children with your ex-spouse you will need to be able to co-parent peacefully.
  • Be able to accept responsibility for certain failings within the marriage.

The consequences of divorce can vary wildly from couple to couple, however, one thing remains and that it will be sad and painful especially when you have children involved. If you would like to learn more about the effect divorce has on children just click this text.

5. What Is Your Reason For Wanting a Divorce?

According to great minds in the divorce industry, any reason other than simply wanting to end the marriage is a sign that you are not ready to get divorced. If you have an ulterior motive or are hoping to change the other person and their viewpoints, maybe they will start treating you better than you are getting divorced for the wrong reason.

A divorce cannot undo what has already been done or change someone’s mind, divorce can only end the marriage. Divorce allows you to be released and free to do as you desire and form bonds with new people.

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Spouses divorce but parents are forever. Do not let your emotions ruin your relationship with your children.

Be prepared to deal with the aftermath of a divorce, especially with young children.

6. Are You Ready & Willing To Take Control Of Your Life & Emotions?

Divorce is a trying time for any individual but you eventually need to get over it and move on with your life. Would you rather do this gracefully and with tact than from a place of hatred and bitterness? Whether you are the one who wants a divorce or the one that is being divorced the endgame is always the same; the resolution of the marriage.  Ultimately the decision is yours to decide how you move forward.

From our experience generally couples who approach the divorce process with understanding and respect have a much easier time moving forward with this change in their life. Ultimately the decision is yours to decide how you wish to approach the ending of your marriage, we always recommend that you do your best to be respectful to your ex-spouse and reach a fulfilling agreement that both you and the children are content with

A few helpful tips to guide you through the process

  • Encourage Honesty: Try be honest with one another and come to a mutual respect and understanding.
  • Ensure The Marriage Is Over: Once a divorce happens you can never go back so ensure the relationship is irrepairable before pursuing.
  • Educate Yourself: Having yourself setup with a therapist, lawyer and financial advisor will help the process be a lot smoother.
  • Find What Matters: Don’t get worked up over small objects and money, look at the bigger picture and focus on what is important to you.
  • Family & Friends: Don’t be afraid to lean on your family and friends for awhile until you find your feet.
  • Be Patient: A divorce is a marathon not a sprint, there are many things that can add to the delay, just go with pace and don’t give yourself anxiety attacks.

Closing Thoughts

In conclusion, it can be a confusing and scary time just by taking the time to ask yourself these questions and whether you are ready for a divorce. Seeking professional help before deciding to go through with a divorce can help you through the process, people such as mediators and divorce coaches will support you.

Maybe you have already decided that divorce is the correct course of action for your marriage and you are ready. Give us a call or send an email for a friendly consultation on how SKV Attorneys can help you through the divorce process.

Thank you for reading and until next time!

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Effects of divorce on children

Effects of Divorce on Children

Marriages don’t always work out the way we planned and sometimes relationships dissolve over time, unfortunately, it is usually the children who are caught in the middle. Sometimes divorce can end in vicious custody battles other times it can end amicably but one thing that is a constant and that is our children are usually the greatest ones affected.

On the upside, there are a variety of different methods and guidelines to help you and your child throughout the divorce in order to help them better cope with their parent’s separation and day to day life. Divorce is never an easy process and it is important that you understand and are aware of the effects it will have on your children.

Divorce and Children
“Children are more likely to experience a wide range of negative issues associated with their parents separating – independent of age”
Frank Furstenberg

Children & Divorce: The Research

Divorce can be a frustrating, scary and confusing time for many children and teenagers alike, it is imperative that they are given the right structure to cope and thrive within their new surrounding and environment.

Before we begin going through the intricacies of the effects divorce has on our children let’s first look into the research and statistics that has already been done on the topic. Please note, we understand that every child is different and responds differently to divorces, however, this is to give you an idea of what has previously happened to children whose parent’s separated.

  • Children from separated homes are more likely to suffer academically and experience falling grades. Often times they portray behavioural issues in the classroom.
  • Children whose parents divorce are more likely to end up committing crimes and being incarcerated as a minor.
  • Teenagers whose parents are going through a divorce are more likely to use alcohol, drugs and other substances than teenagers with parents who are not divorces.
  • Children of divorced parents experience increased emotional and psychological effects.

Certainly, not every child or teenager whose parents are divorced will be dropouts or criminals but it is just an increased likelihood that these things may happen. Some will even go on to achieve great things but we need to be aware of the influence divorce has on our children, as long as we guide them and nurture them the effects will be lessened.

The First Years Of Divorce & It's Impact

The first one or two years after a divorce is often a challenging time for our children as they are adjusting to their new lifestyles and surroundings. During this period the can suffer from confusion, anxiety and stress according to Sol Rappaport of the Family Law Quarterly.

Children are resilient and most are likely to adjust over-time and grow up to be functional adults; however, some will not and will experience lifelong issues after their parents’ divorce. Children and teenagers will often act out during these stressful times before acclimatizing to their new life.

The Emotional Aspect

Divorce creates disturbance for everyone and most importantly the children especially on an emotional level, dealing with children and their emotions can often be a challenging prospect as children sometimes struggle to convey their feelings. Different age groups often go through different feelings during a divorce;

  • Teenagers may become angry towards one of the parents (depending on how the marriage ended) or both, teenagers have already become accustomed to their current life and the disruption it causes may create a feeling of resentfulness.
  • Children between the ages of 8-12 might blame themselves for the divorce or think their behaviour or actions are the reason for their parents’ separation. It is important to make sure that your child understands that it is not their fault and both parents love them very much.
  • Young children will usually feel quite distressed as they no longer see both parents together and must move between two homes without fully understanding why.

When children are young they often see their parents as capable and competent people that are able to care for them make the best decisions for their well-being. When a divorce happens this shatters that reality for a child. They believe their parents are no longer problem-solving champions and their basic understanding of life is conflicting with what is happening.

“When John was nine his parents got divorced, he lived with his mother and only saw his father every Sunday. A few years after his father got remarried and John added a step-mother to his family. At sixteen John got a girlfriend and then added her family and relatives to his life. Johns mother also got married around the same time causing him to have to move in with his new step-father. John then left to go to college and moved in with a roommate, things turned sour and he moved out.

John thought it would be a good idea to move in with his girlfriend; subsequently, they got married and had a boy. John and his wife experienced problems and got a divorce causing his child to come from separated parents. John remarried 4 years later and had a child with his new wife and thus the cycle repeats. John lived in a joint parent house, a single parent house, a step-fathers house, a roommate and his wives. All John had known was always uprooted and constantly changing, no time to get stable and comfortable; starting from a young age. With millions of divorces happening every year now is the right time to investigate the impact it has on children.”

Andrew J. Cherlin

Adjusting to a New Life

For some children it is no the parents separation that causes them the biggest stress (under certain circumstances this could actually help as there are less arguments and tension in the house) but the changing of daily life; new school, new house, new friends, new relationships and usually living with a single parent.

Children will also need to get used to the new custody agreement, sometimes experiencing a deteriorating relationship with the parent who does not have access to their child anymore on a daily basis (generally the father). We, therefore, have a lot of kids growing up without a fatherly figure that is always present in their lives.

On the other hand, most custodial parents (usually mothers) may experience many struggles in raising a child as a single parent and is more likely to suffer from stress and lack of resources. This means other things such as academics, discipline and attention fall to the waist side.

Financial and monetary problems can also impact the Childs life as there are now two separate households with two separate incomes. Many single parents need to move to new houses and areas to accommodate for a loss of resources.

New Spouses & Partners

According to the American Academy of Child Psychiatry, more than 40% of divorcees get remarried. This means more adjustments and changes for your children; additional step-siblings and extended family are now part of their life.

Stability and structure are essential pillars when raising a child, with constant changes and restlessness comes behavioural issues. Partners, spouses and new family members will have a life-long impact on the child.

As stated by the Andrew Cherlin of the Harvard University Press, some parents will go on to have children with their new spouse, leaving their first child with a feeling of being outcast and excluded from their parents new family. This can cause strong feelings of resentfulness, especially in adolescent children.

Should I get remarried?

Give your children the time and attention they deserve from their parents. Keep the fighting and negativity away from them.

Co-parent peacefully, show your children that you can be civil and mature about hard situations.

Mental Health, Behavioral & Substance Problems

Let’s preface this by saying again that not all kids will end up with these problems but there is an increased risk of behavioural and mental health issues occurring. A Childs mind is very fragile and impressionable therefore we must tread carefully when handling our divorces.

Many studies have been conducted and have concluded that depression, anxiety and other mental health issues are more likely to occur in children whose parents are separated than those whose parents are still together. There are also a few arguments that suggest previously anti-social behaviour decreases when marriages with a lot of fighting, tension and unpleasant environments dissolve. Every child and situation is different; some may only experience problems for a few months before adjusting while others may live their whole life with issues.

A paper by Richard Needle suggests that substance abuse amongst children whose parents are divorced is higher than children whose parents are still together. They examined a sample of children from 3 distinct groups; children whose parents are going through a divorce, adolescents whose parents are going through a divorce and those from families who have been continuously married. They concluded that adolescents had a chance to be more likely to be engaged in substance abuse, they also found that the chances increased slightly when a parent remarried.

Divorce can sometimes cause behavioural problems with children from starting fights at school to being isolated from their parents. A wide range of studies find that children from separated homes are more likely to struggle academically and experience more conflict with others, they are also more likely to be risk-tolerant than their counterparts. One such indication is when a child has an absent father they are more likely to engage in sexual behaviour before age 16 due to the fact that a male is usually the disciplinary figure. Other studies do indicate that when a child is given favourable conditions the negative impacts of divorce are lessened and they are much more likely to lead “normal” lives.

Impact on Adulthood

Adults who have experienced the divorce of their parents often have a few different issues, from relationship difficulties, financial struggles and psychological problems. A study of 18-22-year-olds from separated families found the following:

  • 65% had a bad relationship with their fathers. This is most likely due to mothers being the custodial parent.
  • 30% had a poor relationship with their mothers. Often time’s adolescents will blame both parties for the dissolution of the marriage.
  • 25% had dropped out of high-school. Academics can sometimes fall to the waste side when other issues are present in a teenager’s life.
  • 40% had sought out psychological assistance. Anxiety, depression and other disorders can present themselves when a child is going through a stressful time and is not adjusting to their everyday life.

Even after accounting for different demographics, environments and economic situations it was suggested that children from a divorced family were twice as likely to exhibit the problems mentioned above.

A few helpful tips to guide you through the process

Divorce is never easy and hopefully, with the aid of friends, family and of course the internet you can get through it. Here are a few of our helpful tips and guidelines to ensure a successful divorce:

  • Encourage Honesty: Start by being honest with your child and open up to them about the situation. Encourage them to start expressing their feelings to you and what you can do to make the transition easier.
  • Don’t fight in-front of the kids: This is a big one, show your children that you are both adults and can co-parent peacefully. You are both adults and have your children’s best interest in mind and not your differences. Never put your children in the middle of an argument or disagreement, don’t make them choose sides as this will only lead to resentment.
  • Set Boundaries: Setting boundaries for your children, especially adolescents is extremely important as it shows you are still in control and have their well-being in mind. Create rules and discipline within your household. Studies suggest this helps with academia and less behavioural issues.
  • Teach them coping skills: Children can be resilient if in the right environment, it is crucial you teach them basic skills and cognitive exercises to help them deal with stress and the problems they face. This will help them become well-adjusted adults.
  • Family & Friends: Don’t be afraid to reach out to family and friends for assistance, they can be the difference between a successful divorce or a tumultuous one. These are people you should be able to lean on in times of need.
  • Seek Counseling: Being able to talk through your problems with a trusted professional cannot be understated. Whether it is for you are your child, our mental health is something we always need to look after.
  • Be Patient: Patience is key when dealing with your emotions as well as your kids. Give them time to adjust to their new life and changes, let them know you are there for them no matter what they need.

Should I Stay For My Kids?

This is a dilemma every parent going through a divorce struggles with, and ultimately the decision to stay in an unhappy relationship or environment can be more damaging for your child. According to industry professionals, children in disruptive and or abusive environments are just as, if not more likely to suffer from the same issues a child would when their parents’ separate.

As a parent you also need to take your mental health and happiness into account, by making yourself happy you might be a better fit to look after your child, feel more energized and excited for life like never before. As long as you provide a happy, peaceful and stress-free environment for your child they will flourish under the right circumstances just as any other would.

Closing Thoughts

Here at SKV Attorneys we have seen and done it all when it comes to divorces.  The disintegration of a marriage can be tumultuous but one thing is for certain and that is the children always suffer the most. We believe in looking out for everyone’s best interest and well-being.

Take care of your children and family, if you are ever looking for legal advice or assistance please do not hesitate to contact us for a consultation.  One of our dedicated family law attorneys will assist you through the process in order to ensure that your needs and that of children are met.